Open Marriages

So, then, is open marriage the modern couple’s answer to infidelity? Is it two people’s attempt to reinvest in the idea of commitment, to define it on their own terms and to try to avoid divorce? Could it be viewed as an honest attempt to make marriage work? “I think that’s what people tell themselves, but it raises a red flag for me,” says Robboy. “It is incredibly common and incredibly destructive for couples to experiment with open marriage in response to problems or boredom in their sex life. This is not the time to experiment with open marriage. To experiment with open marriage, you have to be in an extremely healthy relationship.”

Um, duh. If the couple is not in "an extremely healthy relationship" then trouble will soon knock on their door.

One common thread through the varying types of open marriages appears to be adherence to the principle that the married couple always takes precedence over any person outside the marriage. Ideally, the minute one spouse becomes upset or uncomfortable with a situation, it should end.

Again, duh.

This lifestyle is not for most people because, quite frankly, most people get married for the wrong reasons and don't understand what it takes to make a marriage work in general. Hence, the extremely high divorce rate in this country.

Swing away here.